Father's role exposes! Man complains of brutal abuse of his wife

Father's role exposes! Man complains of brutal abuse of his wife

Daniel Mwashaireni stands in front of a pile of broken glass: At Harare Civil Court he received a protection arrangement after reporting on his wife Linda Jena on the basis of emotional and physical abuse. Another shock for him: the two children, whom he had regarded as his own for almost two decades, are not his physical offspring. For Mwashaireni, this bitter discovery was a bitter hit in the face, especially in view of the investments that he had made in her upbringing. School fees, uniforms and food add up quickly and he felt cheated. Linda Jena now demands $ 350 per child per month, which presents Mwashaireni with a new challenge. However, his anger is not directed against the children, but against the abuse he suffered from his wife.

The fact that psychological violence has profound effects on the well -being of children is often underestimated. According to the [Child Protection Centers] (https://www.kinderschutz-zentren.org/arbeitsfelder/psychische-walt-an-und-emotional-vernachlaius- von-kinder), psychological violence includes threats, isolation and over-care behavior. These creeping forms of abuse can lead to the feeling of worthlessness and fainting in children and adolescents, which can significantly impair their development. Many affected people also experience other forms of violence, including physical abuse, which are often closely linked. Mwashaireni's Situation could be an example of how emotional abuse can take place in front of the children. Their binding to a parent, as well as the associated psychological violence, can accompany childhood life.

mental violence: an invisible problem

Dr.in Adele Lönberger illuminates the often invisible topic of psychological violence in the [Article] (https://www.gewaltinfo.at/themen/getpsychische-getz--chmest-und-emotional- undemotional-zentlaige-bei-kindenm.html). This form of violence is often not perceived as such and is still widespread. In an Austrian violent study in 2011, 75 % of women and 73 % of men reported psychological violence in their childhood. This shows that it is a topic of society as a whole that often runs under the radar. Mwashaireni himself could be put on as a perpetrator in the eyes of his wife, while he actually has to defend himself against the emotional attacks.

linda Jena in turn denies the allegations of physical abuse and claims that Mwashaireni owe her and the children. These entanglements are typical of scenarios in which mental violence is involved. He is not the first to be in such a complex and stressful situation. Mwashaireni tried to free himself from the toxic relationship and made the decision to leave the house to find peace. Unfortunately, he remains the goal of harassment and threats by Jena.

The way to improve

A judicial recommendation to use advice could be the next step for the couple to cope with their conflicts. This could possibly cause the children to not be drawn into this emotional strudel. Psychological violence and emotional neglect affect not only the immediate perpetrator-victim dynamics, but also the development and well-being of the children. In many cases, it is essential that affected families have access to professional help in order to relieve the effects of violence and find a way back to a healthier relationship.